Becoming and Being, All at the Same Time
Late at night, in the quiet hope of sleep, I stumbled upon a video titled “I Stopped Trying to Control Everything (and It Changed My Life)” by Lindsiann.
She speaks of a blurred, almost invisible line—the one that separates becoming from simply being. In a world that urges us to refine, optimize, and monetize ourselves endlessly, I couldn’t help but wonder: where did being disappear? It often feels like a choice we must make. Either we build relentlessly toward a future, sacrificing the softness of the present, or we surrender to the moment—free, curious, alive—yet haunted by the shame of not producing enough.
But what if we long for both? A life where growth does not cancel presence, where becoming intertwines with the quiet gratitude of being.
That is where Lindsiann offers a gentler framework: agency and detachment. Becoming, she suggests, is often tangled in the illusion of control—follow the steps, reach the destination, become the thing you desire. But perhaps true freedom lives elsewhere: in choosing to act, fully and intentionally, while releasing the need to control where those actions land.
The new year arrives carrying its familiar weight—the promise to grow, to evolve, to be more. I believe deeply in living fully, in moving toward what calls us. Yet I am learning how easily attachment turns effort into disappointment when life refuses to follow the script we wrote for it. So I return to this idea: agency and detachment.
To act with care. To move with intention. To do what nurtures growth—becoming—and then loosen my grip, allowing the universe to respond as it will. To rest in the simple truth of having shown up—being. Becoming and being, not as opposites, but as one continuous entity.
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